A Common Adoption Myth

"Adoption is the consolation prize when fertility treatments don’t work."

This is a very common feeling, says Lowinger. “Forming a family through adoption may seem like second-best to parents who are still fantasizing about the jointly conceived biological child they wanted.” She continues, “You really have to mourn the loss of having a child by birth before you adopt, for your sake and the child’s. Adoption is not a solution to infertility. It’s a solution to wanting to become a parent.” Lowinger points out that a parent’s feelings of loss about not having a child by birth may actually help develop empathy between her and her child, who will most likely experience feelings of loss having to do with being relinquished by his or her birth parents.


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